How to be Kind to Yourself when You Think You're Too Busy to Practice Self-Love / by Abigail Marguerite

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! December is a mixture of magic, beauty, stress, and anxiety. With Holidays comes so much more - some of it necessary and called for, and some of it terribly unwelcome. While I hope today was filled with joy, happiness, relaxation, and loved ones - this is a reminder in self-love for those of you who felt like strangling your house guests, for those of you who snuck away and locked yourselves in the bathroom during dinner just to get away, and for those of you who are spending this season feeling a little lonely. Now is more a time than ever to show yourselves kindness. Here are a few suggestions:

1. Take a bath

Fill the bathtub with bubbles, put on happy tunes, pour yourself your favorite beverage, and grab a book. Melt into the warm water and let yourself daydream.

2. Go to sleep early

Putting yourself to bed at 8 pm is magical.

3. Give yourself a mani/pedi

Whether you're a guy or gal, your hands and feet will feel 100x better once they're clipped, trimmed, and looking clean.

4. Drink a TON of water

Hydration is huge. Not only will it help you cut back on the not-so-good-for-you snacks, but it will also help keep your energy up, your skin looking on point, and lift your spirits no matter how many rounds of "jingle bells" your grandparents make you sing.

5. Give yourself a break

As an introvert, I can't function if I don't have some time and space to breathe. A few years ago, I read one should give themselves an hour of alone time for every four hours of visiting with friends, family, and loved ones. Hosting this year? Make it a half hour every two!

6. Find Inspiration

Watch a good movie. Pick up a magazine with pretty pictures. Surf your favorite blogs or Pinterest. Read a captivating book. Listen to a motivating Podcast. If you're in a culture-filled city or town, go to a museum, see a play, or attend the ballet. You can never overdose on inspiration.

7. Write

Putting your thoughts down on paper is extremely cathartic. Whether you're writing a blog post, a journal entry, or a letter to a loved one, chances are you'll feel 100 x lighter once you punctuate the last sentence. 

8. Get outside

Go for a walk, run, or bike ride. Trek that favorite trail in your hometown. Visit the beach and watch the waves roll over themselves. Rake some leaves or shovel the driveway full of snow. Dance at all the Holiday parties you're invited to. Your body is asking for this, so give in!

9. Call a friend

Sometimes practicing self-love is better with a friend. Call someone you haven't talked to in a while and tell her how your life has been lately. Then listen to her advice and give her a chance to spill her own guts to you.

10. Treat Yourself

Buy yourself a beautiful bouquet of flowers. Indulge in a sweet treat. Go to the salon or splurge on a massage. Take yourself out to lunch or dinner or go crazy and buy yourself a ticket to a tropical island weekend getaway. Maybe treating yourself means getting in touch with a counselor who could help set you on the right track. Whatever it is, you deserve it. Go for it.

How do your show yourself kindness? I'd love to hear. Comment below!