Confessions: No One Has Their Shit Together and You Don't Have to Either
Please don't ever get down on yourself for "not having your shit together." The only reason we feel inadequate as humans is because we constantly compare ourselves to others. I've found that spending too much time trying to keep up with my peers can often lead to detrimental thoughts and bouts of anxiety and even depression. Although noticing where others are at in their lives is somewhat necessary in order to be able to place yourself and function within society, most times trying to keep up with the joneses also leads to feelings of incompetence. And no one needs that.
Did you know?
Vincent Van Gogh sold only one painting throughout his entire life - and it was only months before his death. If he had given up based on financial reasons, the world would be without hundreds of classic art pieces.
The author of Dr. Seuss books had his first book rejected by 27 different publishers. Today, his books have sold over 600 million copies.
While developing his vacuum, Sir James Dyson went through 5,126 failed prototypes and his savings over 15 years. BUT, his 5,127th prototype worked, and Dyson is the best-selling vacuum in the US.
J.K. Rowling was a single mom living off welfare when she started writing the first Harry Potter book. She then became the first billionaire author in 2004.
When he was a child, Albert Einstein had difficulty communicating and learning in the traditional manner. He went on to win the Nobel prize in physics for the discovery of the photoelectric effect.
If you truly are a hot mess, just think: you have no one to impress. You can travel on a whim. You can learn anything you want to through unpaid internships. You can have shitty jobs and learn to grow a backbone. You'll deal with assholes and in turn won't end up one yourself. You can change the path you're going down at any time, with no repercussions! The possibility! The excitement!
And remember, there's no such thing as being an adult.
As Nicole Martin at Huffington post perceptively points out, "You can do 'adult things' like pay bills, have a job, buy a house, get married, have kids, do all the things that you watched your parents do, but if you are waiting for that moment where you stop making mistakes and completely have your shit together, you're going to be waiting forever."
See the soccer mom leading her four kids out of the grocery store with perfectly packed bags and not one tear in sight? She was earlier found bribing her spawn in the candy aisle: she begged them to be angelic for the next half hour while simultaneously passing out lollipops. And your roommate studying nursing and on his way to earning his PhD in pediatrics? He's swimming in debt and doesn't know how to budget. Your best friend from high school who just got engaged? She's still interning for that startup magazine back in your hometown and living with her parents. You may live in a 350 square foot hole and eat ramen every other night and be preparing for your 18th interview this year, but...
SO IS EVERYONE ELSE.
Any hilarious failures of your own? Approaching 30 and still bringing your laundry back home for mom to do? Let us know! We'll commiserate together.